Simple Steps To Getting Back With Your Ex

If you have gone through a break up in the not so distant future, and you are trying to start dating other people again, then you know it's not an easy thing to do. You come home after yet another lousy date with some guy, and now all you can think about is getting back with your ex. What you want to know is if there is a chance that the two of you will be able to get back together. The answer is that it is possible, but you have to be willing to do whatever it takes.

As you move forward with your plan of getting back with your ex, you have to stay focused. So, that means no more dating other guys. No matter how nice the guys may be, dating takes a lot of energy. You need to be ready to handle things as they come up. Besides, if you're really interested in getting him back, then it only makes sense that you would stop chasing after other potential relationships.

Make sure that you keep your self-respect while you are apart from one another. That means you can't keep trying to chase down your ex. He will look at you more favorably if you don't show him how needy you are. At the same time, don't let him push you around and manipulate you. The key is to stay strong, confident and secure. This won't be as hard to do as you think, because you have a plan.

Changing your mindset is also an important step. It is normal to feel angry and hurt after a break up, but that won't do any good in getting your ex back. Instead, make a list of all of the things you like about your ex. After doing these things you should be ready to start trying to reunite.

As you start talking to each other about patching things up, be sure to try to get out of whatever ruts you were in. This will keep things interesting. It will also keep you from associating old habits with old feelings.

You should also work on building a better future for the both of you. There is no need for you to wait for circumstances to happen to you. Nope! Go out and live a fuller life, a happy life, a shared life. This doesn't mean you have to be globe-trotting thrill seekers, or be attached to each other around the clock. Be sure to do this together. As long as you are planning on getting back with your ex, you may as well be happier than you were before. After all, if you are going to go right back to doing the exact same things, then the odds are that you will end up in the same place.

Getting Over A Break Up With Class

Breaking up is a drag. Okay, I will admit that that sounds quite obvious, but if you have recently gone through a break up, then you know just how tough it can really be. You are not alone if you're experiencing a virtual roller coaster of emotions. One moment you are so filled with anger that yo feel like you could kill them, then the next moment you miss them so much that all you can think about is getting back with your ex. All of these feelings, while difficult, are totally normal.

While some people may say a break up isn't as bad as dying, there are some similarities. For example, you are losing a part of your life; someone that was close to you; perhaps someone you thought of as being one with yourself. Without them your life seems empty. In other words, it feels just as though something has died inside of you. The other similarity is the grieving process. After somebody dies, it's typical for their loved ones to go through what's known as the "five stages of grief". There are definitely stages that people go through after a break up, too.

An excellent first step to do after a break up is to write a letter to your ex. Say everything that you are feeling. Don't hold anything back. Pour your heart out and don't leave anything back. Talk about the good times and bad times, talk about how they shattered your dreams of a happy future together, call them every nasty name in the book you can think of, bare your soul and keep on writing until there is nothing more to be said. You can do this because your ex will never read it. In fact, nobody will because the other part of this exercise is to burn the letter after you write it. Doing this will allow you to get all of the pent up emotions out of your system without running the risk of making things worse between you and your ex.

Another important part of getting over a break up is to make sure there aren't any loose ends that one of you can use to manipulate the other. So, if there are any bills that you are partially responsible for, pay your share as soon as possible. If there is any property held in common then sit down and work out who gets what. If you can't decide who should get certain items then you could always agree to sell those items and split whatever money you get for them.

Once you have these loose ends tied up, then you should break off any and all contact with your ex for a few weeks. This will prevent each of you from saying or doing things you may regret later. Whether you end up getting back with your ex or not, you should still do what you can to remain respectful toward one another.