Relationship Advice Online - Plain Common Sense Applies

It's not too hard to find a ton of relationship advice online. The real problem is that there is just too much advice online. Not only that, but it's tough to know what advice is 'good' advice and what advice you may be better off ignoring. For that reason, I've put together this article where I will give you some solid, common sense advice. Enjoy.

Just in case you were wondering, I'm not a counselor or therapist. I'm just someone who has had some experience (not all of which has been good) and I've learned a lot of very valuable life lessons. Once you read over my list of tips, I think that you'll see for yourself that none of it is rocket science, but it is good advice that can really benefit you.

OK, here we go:

1. Don't settle. I'm pretty sure most everyone on the planet has settled at one time or another and stayed in a relationship with someone they knew they shouldn't be in a relationship with. I've done it. It's pretty apparent early on, in most cases, that your love isn't all they are cracked up to be.

It usually starts small: a little lie, a nasty comment, etc. From there it almost always gets worse (why wouldn't it, you have already proved to them that they can treat you that way and you will keep coming back for more).

Don't be paranoid, but keep your eyes open for subtle clues. If they are going to show up they will probably show up early, long before you are too far in to leave. If you see some things, try to talk about it and work it out but if it doesn't change, leave. You deserve better.

2. Treat your partner the way you want to be treated. If you don't want to be lied to, put down or cheated on than don't do that to your honey. Hold yourself and any one else that you are in a relationship with (this doesn't have to only apply to romantic relationships either, the same holds true for friends and family) to a high standard. Give as good as you expect to get.

3. There is a fine line between being willing to work on problems and turning a blind eye to the faults of your partner. By all means be willing to work on issues, but you have to be realistic and not allow yourself to be manipulated. It's very easy for your partner to tell you that they will 'try to change'.

They may make some small attempts for a while but if you're not careful you will both revert back to a negative pattern of behavior in a few days. You have to be on guard and make sure that doesn't happen.

Finding relationship advice online isn't hard to do. If you want to 'fast track' it, just keep these tips in mind for your current relationship or the next time you find yourself dating. You will save yourself a world of hurt if you do.

Break Up Help Advice

If you and your significant other are about to break up help is out there to show you how to get it done right. Don't ever break up with someone over the phone or in a text message. Break up with them in person, preferably in private. Don't humiliate them by breaking up in public. You will end up having more respect for yourself and although they will not like the fact you are breaking up with them, they will have more respect for you in the long run.

Obviously, if your significant other has a tendency to become violent this advice will not apply to your situation. Stay safe and handle the break up over the phone or in public.

Honesty is important, but if the reason you need break up help is that you have met someone else, keep that information to yourself. Even if they ask, don't tell them. There is no point in causing them more pain than they feel already. Go ahead and start your new relationship, but do yourself a favor even though you may not want to, try to keep it on the down-low. At least for a while. You don't want your ex to come at you or your new love in a jealous rage. Make your new memories together in new places, special only to the two of you.

Plan out what you want to say beforehand because no matter how you feel you will be nervous when breaking up with them. Stand your ground. You have made this decision for a reason so stick to it. You will sound less convincing if you try to let them down easy. They will be just as hurt either way so state your reasons calmly and confidently...then run for cover, lol.

When the break up is done, don't call them for any reason and don't take their calls. This will only give them false hope and keep the hurt fresh in both your minds. Don't kid yourself, you will feel a sense of loss after the break up, too. Change the habits the two of you had. Don't keep going to the same coffee house or restaurants you did when you were together. You might accidentally bump into them and then they might think you were there just to see them.

If you haven't already met someone new, it's probably best to hold off on dating for a while. You may have had more time to process the break up than your ex, but you should still give yourself some time to adjust to your new single life. It sounds weird, but even if you're the one who ended the relationship, you can be vulnerable to a rebound relationship too, so give it some time.

Most people don't realize that no matter which side of the break up you are on, it's tough. Unless your ex was a real jerk, you'll want to find a way to end the relationship as gently, yet firmly, as possible. Following these tips will give you all the break up help you need.